Shame is feeling of no self worth and a complete separateness from the divinity that you are
shame : a painful emotion caused by consciousness of guilt, shortcoming, or impropriety : the susceptibility to such emotion : a condition of humiliating disgrace or disrepute: something to be regretted : pity : a cause of feeling shame.
My View...
Shame is the feeling of worthlessness, a lack of self-worth or self-esteem. This feeling arises when you get so caught up in your story that you’ve forgotten who you really are. You are God there is no shame in that.
It could just be a lack of purpose in your experience and the fact that you may not be contributing and adding value to the lives of others.
You could be feeling shame for any number of reasons, and the sure way out of this feeling is by making the choice to help and add value to the lives of others. This will not only make you feel better, but you’ll find that by doing so you’ll connect with your God-Self and good things will begin being attracted to you.
Realize that you are God, indentify with that part of you instead of your story in which you feel the shame and shame will melt away.
My Experience...
At birth both of my Achilles tendons were too short placing me in casts from 10 days old to age 14 in an attempt to stretch the tendons and allow me to walk normally, however the casting technique was less than adequate in reaching its goals and a very scary and painful experience as a child.
As a youth I was continually teased and badgered by the other kids and all I can remember dreaming about was to one day be normal. At age 39 it looked like my dream was going to finally come true, I was going to have surgery on my left foot to repair its deformity.
Going into the surgery to repair my left foot I was so excited, but things didn’t go well and I ultimately lost my left leg. I thought I was going to finally be a normal person, but I wound up worse off.
For the longest time after the loss, even though to others I seemed to have it together, I was dying inside, I felt like an alien and it took quite some time and help from some very special people in my life to get over the shame and move on as the new me.
It wasn’t an easy time for me, but now looking back I can see where I was clearly so deeply indentified in my story and feeling like the victim that I put up a barrier to and could not see that it was just a part of my story and that I Am much more than that, I Am the creator of that story, of that experience, I have no shame.
The Simple...
There is nothing to be shameful about, you are simply having the experience of shame, you are God having the experience of shame through you. Your story has led you to the feeling of shame, but you are not your story, you are love, you are God, let it go and write a new story.
The past is a memory, the future has yet to manifest, the NOW is all there is and you have the choice to either indentify with the shame of your story, which is okay, or indentify with your God-Self and know that you can change your story anytime you choose.
Every experience has validity and every experience is just that, an experience. You are God, you are Love, you are everything, remember who you are and you’ll see that shame is just another experience, love it, love yourself and love the God that you are.
SHAME - I Am Now Adding Value...
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